[Weekend Watch List] Fara iubire nu se poate

Nu ar fi mai simplu fara? Fara suparare, nevoie, disperare, frica, neincredere, nervi? Fara vulnerabilitati care complica lucrurile? Fara lacrimi? Nu ar fi mai simplu fara toate lucrurile astea dureroase prin care te trece cel mai frumos sentiment al speciei umane? Asa au crezut si locuitorii imaginari din Equilibrium, dar Christian Bale, dupa ce a facut cateva scheme cu karate si pistoale, le-a aratat ca nu se poate. Fara iubire nu se poate nimic, nici macar in societati inventate. Nici macar cand iei pastile anti-dragoste.

Acum, vor spune multi, iubirea nu ar trebui sa insemne asta: lacrimi, nervi si suparare. Dragostea e buna, dragostea e rabdatoare si nu pizmuieste (Epistola I către Corinteni). Ei, despre asta este si lista noastra de mai jos. Ce e dragostea si de ce? De ce o cautam mereu, in ciuda efectelor adverse? Ce e seductie, ce e obsesie, ce e iubire? Si intre toate acestea, ce e casatoria?

Helen Fisher, Ph.D: Why People Fall in Love

 Helen Fisher presents study findings on why people fall in love with one person and not another.

Oxytocin: The reason we fall in love

 What is oxytocin and why is it considered the “love hormone”?

How Your Brain Falls In Love | Dawn Maslar | TEDxBocaRaton

For centuries poets and philosophers have speculated what causes two people to fall in love. Now, Biologist Dawn Maslar M.S. puts an innovative twist on this age-old question. Science can now take the mystery out of love. Thanks to latest neuroscience we can finally explain how your brain falls in love. In this innovative twist on this age-old question, Maslar explores the latest neuroscience and explains how your brain falls in love.

The mathematics of love | Hannah Fry | TEDxBinghamtonUniversity

Dr. Hannah Fry is a mathematician and complexity scientist from University College London's Centre for Advanced Spatial Analysis. Her work revolves around exploring the patterns in human behavior and applying a mathematical perspective to tackle a wide range of problems across our society. Alongside her academic position, Fry is passionate about sharing the abstract beauty of mathematics with others and demonstrating its importance in our modern world. She has a broad portfolio of media and public engagement activities from schools outreach, math-themed stand-up comedy, YouTube videos and public lectures. Fry also regularly presents the Number Hub strand of BBC Worldwide's YouTube channel, Headsqueeze.

Alain de Botton: On Love | Sydney Opera House

Twenty-first century depictions of love and marriage are shaped by a set of Romantic myths and misconceptions and with his trademark warmth and wit, Alain de Botton explores the complex landscape of a modern relationship, presenting a realistic case study for marriage and examining what it might mean to love, to be loved - and to stay in love.

Is it lust or is it love? | Terri Orbuch | TEDxOaklandUniversity

 This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. We’ve all been dizzy with desire at the beginning of a new relationship. But ask anyone to label that urgent longing and yearning, and you’ll get as many different responses as you will people. How do you know whether the passion and butterflies in your stomach are signs of romantic love or simply lust? Dr. Terri Orbuch will discuss signals to distinguish between lust and love, and how to reignite that lustful desire in loving long-term relationships.

To Fall in Love with Anyone | Mandy Len Catron | TEDxChapmanU

 What’s it like to use a scientific formula to fall in love, share the tale in the New York Times and then find yourself overwhelmed by a world fascinated with your love life? Hear the story from Mandy Len Catron, whose essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” set hearts and minds aflutter.

How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You | Femi Ogunjinmi | TEDxXavierUniversity

 Is proclaiming your love for someone truly enough? Femi Ogunjinmi brings to light what fully constitutes an enduring, fulfilling relationship through his engaging experiences. Femi Ogunjinmi, mostly known as Gfem is a certified life coach, international relationship coach, award winning motivational speaker, and a radio talk show host who has been improving the lives of singles and couples for over ten years. He has authored two edition books titled, "Revelations of Relationship: What you don't know about finding true love and sustaining relationship." Femi earned his Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from Morgan State University and a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Benedictine University with a Certificate in Financial Management. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.

The psychology of seduction | Raj Persaud | TEDxUniversityofBristol

 Psychiatrist Dr Raj Persaud argues much human distress arises out relationships. But we can all become more skilled in our relationships be they in the domains of friendship, romance, work or career. Deploying the psychological principles behind seduction, the author of a new book on dysfunctional love - 'Can't Get You Out Of My Head' - explains how improving how seductive you are, will also lead to benefits across many other aspects of your life, beyond just romance.

Searching for love to escape ourselves | Hayley Quinn | TEDxUniversityofNevada

 Love, sex and dating are often venerated as 'the ultimate goal of life'. However how much of our quest for love is about avoiding being with ourselves? About facing reality? About creating our own direction? And in running away from ourselves in love, do we ultimately avoid the work needed to return to selfhood that will actually bring us happiness.

If You Want To Know What It Takes To FIND and KEEP LOVE - WATCH THIS!

 Simon Sinek on LOVE and LEADERSHIP

Select the right relationship | Alexandra Redcay | TEDxUpperEastSide

 Are you ready to talk about relationships? Alexandra Redcay is the executive director to Serise, Inc. She can be found at Seriseinc.com. Alexandra has over 18 years of direct practice, management, and training experience working in mental health, substance abuse, child welfare, juvenile justice, and education systems. She is an expert consultant in establishing healthy relationships.

How To Choose A Partner Wisely

 We’re given very little guidance on how to choose our partners and tend to leave it to that mysterious force we know as ‘instinct’. However, it truly pays to be a little more rational in this area and work out how our instincts operate and why they push us towards some people and away from others.

Why We Pick Difficult Partners

In theory, we're nowadays allowed to get together with pretty much anyone we like. And yet, at a psychological level, we aren't free to love just any suitable person. We have a type - and strangely and awkwardly, these types are often not those who stand a chance of making us maximally happy.

Dating Is Dead | Kevin Carr | TEDxWilmingtonSalon

 Despite the possibilities of modern technology, the desire for instant results does not always translate well in the dating world.

The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen

 Tracy McMillan is a television writer (Mad Men, United States of Tara) and relationship author who wrote the book Why You're Not Married...Yet, based on her viral 2011 Huffington Post blog. She also appeared as a dating coach on the NBC reality show Ready For Love. She lives in Los Angeles and is the mother of a 16-year-old guy.

Why Bother With Marriage?

From many points of view, marriage is a costly hassle that makes no sense. Why, then, might there still be good reasons to get married?

The Real Reason for Marriage - Prof. Jordan Peterson

Jordan Peterson is a Canadian clinical psychologist, author and psychology professor at the University of Toronto. In this excerpt of his lecture series “Maps of Meaning” he shares his insightful views on the reasons for marriage and makes a strong but not uncontroversial case against divorce.

Why Marriage Seems Harder Now Than Ever Before

 Eli J. Finkel, a professor at Northwestern University and the author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage," explains three different ways you can strengthen your relationship.

Just what is marriage about? | Jordan Peterson

 In this clip, Dr. Peterson rips through one of the thorniest entanglements we see in our modren age — marriage.

The history of marriage - Alex Gendler

 A white, puffy dress. Eternal love. A joint tax return. Marriage means something different to everyone and has changed over time and across cultures. Alex Gendler traces the history of getting hitched, providing insights on polygamy, same-sex unions and even marriage between the dead and the living.

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel

 In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

Esther Perel | Modern Love and Relationships | SXSW 2018

Relationships are going through a complex cultural shift. Expectations on intimate partnerships are at an all-time high, yet we lack the tools and resources to reach this new Olympus. Join iconic couples therapist Esther Perel as she shines a light on the state of modern love, the importance of erotic intelligence, and how listening to the stories of others helps us navigate our own relationships.

In Praise of Unrequited Love

Unrequited love is always going to be the poor relative of the requited kind, but that is no reason to ignore or denigrate it. We're all fated to spend a part of our lives deeply enraptured by people who won't feel the same about us: this is a structural inevitability. We should learn, in our less distraught moments, to recognise and honour the claims of unrequited love.

The Cure for Unrequited Love

 The real cruelty of unrequited love is that we don’t get to know our beloveds well enough to find out their flaws – and therefore to lose interest in them gradually. The best cure for love is in essence: get to know them better.

The Future of Love: Esther Perel

In straight talk from the 2018 Radiant Intimacy gathering, Esther Perel offers fresh insights into expectations, negotiations, intimacy, motherhood, turn-ons and turn-offs, and the coming and going of love and eroticism. She concludes with answers to a series of questions from the audience, which confirm her reputation as one of the most brilliant and original authorities on the natural history of relationship.